feng shui can improve the quality of sleep and relationships within the home. the idea of energy flowing through your home may seem a bit far-fetched, but many people would agree that particular shapes and colors affect mood and behavior, and I see feng shui as one way to identify what will work in your home with your personal temperament. Today I am explaining how to do feng shui in your children’s room, although almost all the principles mentioned can be applied to adult rooms as well.
the concept of feng shui
The ancient Chinese practice of feng shui may not be as far off as you think. Reorienting furniture to face a designated direction is the first thing that comes to mind for many, but it’s actually much more than that. feng shui aims to create a relaxing yet inspiring environment by considering how the space is used and how energy can flow through it. again, “energy” may sound a bit fluffy, but think about lines of sight, how you move and interact with objects, and how colors affect your mood.
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To create good feng shui, everything requires a purpose. careful consideration of what you put and where you put it should create an uncluttered home in line with your own temperament, personality and natural sense of style.
how to do feng shui in your children’s room
All feng shui ideas can be applied to children’s rooms, although there are some considerations that are unique to a child’s energy. for example, traditional feng shui would make the bed accessible from both sides, so energy (chi) can flow freely around it. however, it is generally accepted that sleeping against a solid wall helps young children feel secure, which is generally considered more important overall.
There are a few general rules on how to bring good feng shui to your child’s room before you begin to consider customizing it to your child’s personal energy.
12 ways to bring good feng shui to your children’s room
- eliminate clutter. a clutter-free bedroom promotes restful, healthy sleep.
- purifies the air. air purifying plants, open a window when you can… quality air is everything.
- place the bed in the ‘command position’. Command position allows for the best view of the doorway and room, putting your child in command of their surroundings. place the bed away from the door line, ideally diagonally and further from it.
- do not place the bed directly under a window or in line with a mirror. both placements reduce the safety of the child, we all know what it is to glimpse something in the mirror and feel fear. avoiding these positions may not be possible, but it is best practice. the commanding position generally takes precedence over any of these considerations if you find you have a conflict.
- choose a wooden bed frame with a solid headboard. again, we’re back to a sense of security and comfort, so important in the children’s bedroom. a solid wood or padded upholstered headboard is much more comfortable to sit on, and therefore your child will feel more secure in the way they move and sit in bed. metal beds are much more prone to shifting and squeaking, neither of which help the sleeper feel secure.
- Choose a bed frame that is raised off the ground, with no storage underneath. To create good feng shui, you must allow energy (chi) to flow freely around you. By raising the bed and keeping the space under the bed clear, chi flows freely, improving your child’s state of rest (no Montessori floor beds here). this is also related to avoiding metal…some believe that the conductive properties of metal interrupt the flow of chi.
- choose a circular/rounded nightstand. the corners pointing in the direction of the seat or beds is considered bad feng shui and is even called ‘poison arrows’. these angles build up chi and direct it outward in his direction, not what you want for a peaceful night’s sleep. although we are approaching distant territory, I agree that no one likes to be pointed out, and the position of hard angles could well be distracting.
- choose soft tones to decorate . Natural/flesh/earth colors are generally considered good feng shui for bedrooms. however, a child may want something a little more colorful and personalized for her space. avoid flashy primary colors or crazy wallpaper, overstimulation doesn’t help kids sleep. stick to pastels and light and bright colors, and personalize with accents in line with your birthing element or household bagua (see below).
- display family photos and artwork children’s art. Positive images of parents promote a sense of security while strengthening the parent’s position of authority in the home. Allowing children to choose and display their own pictures helps them take ownership of their space and encourages creativity.
- Avoid images of wild animals or fights. I appreciate that your child Sharks and ninjago may be of great interest, but images of wild animals and aggressive behavior do not create a calm environment and good feng shui.
- Incorporate balanced lighting. Because feng shui is all about energy, lighting becomes very important. find a healthy balance between dark (yin energy) and light (yang energy). use a combination of lighting (natural light, fixtures, lamps) to avoid dark corners and extreme shadows. hanging pendants from the ceiling are also considered bad feng shui and should be avoided.
- avoid electrical devices in the bedroom. keep your child’s bedroom as free of electromagnetic fields as possible . no televisions, computers, cell phones. use a battery-operated alarm clock on the wall plugged in. The disturbance of sleep by electromagnetic fields is well documented, and some studies have shown that exposure to electromagnetic fields while sleeping impedes melatonin production and, in turn, disrupts natural sleep cycles.
find your child’s birth element
Your feng shui birth element is related to your Chinese birth year (different date range than Western years). my daughter was born in the year of the tiger and has a metal birth element (also my own birth element). use this picture of the fir tree to find out the birth element of her child.
The above inspired color wheel was created according to a rodika palette in know feng shui. share more about the palette and its feng shui in his post: learn about the feng shui color wheel
The birth of your child element is the perfect way to accessorize the color scheme of your room with decorative accents such as photo frames, decorative pillows or curtains. this can cause problems with shared rooms, which is not recommended for good feng shui, however dividing the room with something like a rug can help. match the birth element with a corresponding palette:
- wood: green and brown.
- fire: red, yellow, orange, pink and purple.
- earth: beige/pale yellow, browns.
- metal: white and grey.
- water: blue and black.
consider your bagua
your bagua is an energy map for your home. In concept, depending on where you enter your house, different areas of the house will be charged with different energies and therefore more appropriate for certain activities. Most of us can’t play too much with our floor plan, but by identifying the rooms and their location on the bagua map, we can understand which areas need to be improved or adjusted.
my daughter’s bedroom is located in the ‘family’ bagua of the house, an area that corresponds to the element of wood. this is an area of strength and appropriate to her personality and needs…greens and browns are perfect colors to accentuate this energy.
There are no bad bagua areas of the house for your child’s room, but you may want to encourage some energies more than others. for example, too much fire in a child’s room could foster temper and conflict. some elements feed/conflict with each other, so this is also worth considering. for example, water nourishes both wood and earth elements, so accents of blue would also be beneficial on the “family” bagua.
I appreciate that we’re starting to delve into the complicated stuff, and you have to remember that feng shui is not an exact science. it is fluid and depends on your own personal needs and lifestyle. consider the bagua map and let it inform, but not dictate your choices.
evaluating the feng shui of my daughter’s room
I took a good look at my daughter’s room to assess the feng shui and help explain the above with an example. my daughter’s birth element is metal and her room is located in the ‘family’ energy center of the home, complemented by the wood element. Below is an image that highlights bad feng shui areas, however, I’d also like to point out everything that brings good feng shui to the room:
- wooden bed with solid headboard, raised off the ground and in the ‘command position’;
- furniture is white, accentuating ‘metal’, while green curtains and a cushion they enhance ‘wood’;
- mixed light sources create security, and the room is painted in a pastel tone;
- she has a family photo on her dresser.
there’s a lot of good feng shui in elsie’s room, yay! however, there is room for improvement:
the red pillow that you’ve recently brought into the room from somewhere else, and it’s not a complementary item to have in your room like someone from the metal birth element. ideally, you should swap out your pointy corner nightstand with something rounded and anything that hangs directly over your head is a bit of a no-no. if you are going to hang something decorative, do it near a window, away from the bed. lastly, elsie also has a speaker next to her bed because she likes to listen to music at night…not a great idea in fem terms, but she finds it very relaxing.
Now you know how to apply feng shui to your children’s room… tell me how the energy in your home is working for you!